@ Rainbow - Not sure at this point. In order to ease the pain, we may just hire someone to look in on her every day. However, in the past 1.5 years since we took her in, she has become so dependant that it borders on ridiculous. I think most of the time she's just screwing with us. We left to go see my family in Atlanta several months ago and she did fine alone there for 4-5 days. However, as soon as we walk through the door, the dishes start piling up again, she can't find the box of food that is three feet from her, she can't figure out how to turn her radio on...just dumb stuff like that. We are apparently fast becoming her crutches. She finds plenty of time to walk to the store and buy wine to get hammered on when we are not around, but when we are it's 'can you take me to the store? It's too cold... My feet hurt..." I see through most of it by my wife bends to her will almost all the time. Sometimes she stands her ground in her efforts to get her to stop drinking, but if we refuse her, she'll sneak off and buy it and that is, to us, more dangerous because then she's out on the roads drunk. The store is only about 1/4 mile, but this isn't exactly a rural area.
@GardenRN: Thanks for that. You made my day. I'll be sure to travel the 1.5 to 9 hours to Richmond (depending on traffic and construction) to sniff around in your garden. LOL! Let me know if you are ever in the area, though, and I'll do the same.
I worked in Springfield for nearly 4 years on a big project we had down there for the USACE.
@vebyrd26: Yeah, we try. It's really a thankless job when you are dealing with someone who seemingly is as helpless as she leads us to believe. The reason we think she's smarter than she leads us to believe is a particuliar incident that occurred just two months ago. We share a common relative that is not really hers, but my wife's family. A crippled son of my wife's aunt that passed away many years ago. He had some money sitting in an account and when Nancy found out about it, she went to the bank and talked them into giving her the money stating she was his only surviving relative. It was only about $800 bucks, but she's already lost it and complains all the time about having no money when it's simply hidden in some pocket or some cigarette box somewhere in her room that she can't locate now. She hides stuff all the time and loses it the following day. She really acts like she has Alzheimer's because she'll ask the same exact question 5 times in 2 minutes, completely forgetting that she just asked it. But dementia can have the same affects. She's just rotting her brain and body with alcohol and there's nothing we can do about it aside from strapping her to a bed. She'll find a way to get it. We've tried cutting her off financially (since we buy her anything she wants, whenever she wants it) but I guess all the hidden cash ends up being found when the crutch is removed. Anyway, enough griping on my part. This is supposed to be about gardening!
