Charlie MV
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been out for a while

We lost two parents in the last 10 months.My father died at 85 in August . Pop was a WW2 naval veteran. He was on two different ships that were sunk . Both were LST's . One went down at North Africa, the other at Anzio. He led a fairly tortured life to the end dying of complications from dementia.

We moved in with and started taking care care for my wife's mother 4 years ago. That's when we started gardening. She was 90 when she died at home in March.

Over 3 gardening seasons she shelled every pea, snapped every bean and skinned the corn. She and my wife loaded up two freezers each year. It fed us most of the following year. I found it much more difficult to deal with losing the parent we lived with.

She was old school, shy and rarely spoke. She rarely addressed me directly. She would ask my wife "does Charlie want fried okra tonight?" Charlie would say "he does". It was a weird 4 years. She is missed. My wife is getting by but we were so intertwined, it will take a while to become normal again.

I'm not sure why I wrote this here but uncertainty never stopped me from doing anything before so..

Thanks for listening. I have been lurking. I will lurk less and poke more fun in the future.

We are having a bumper crop year but geezerfication is taking it's toll along with the 95 degree days of SC. Pictures to follow eventually.

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applestar
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I'm very sorry for your losses.... Please convey my condolences to your wife as well. :(

Poke fun away, Charlie! Glad to hear you're coming up from under. :wink:

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Kisal
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Charlie, it's good to see you again! I've missed your posts! :)

I'm very sorry to hear about the passing of your dad and your mom-in-law. It's never easy to lose someone you love, even if you're far away from them and only talk on occasion. But you're 100% right that losing someone with whom you interact face-to-face on a daily basis is extremely hard. It leaves a gaping hole in your everyday life. I offer my deepest condolences to you and your DW. :(

I love the word "geezerfication"! I'm going to tell a dear friend of mine that that is what he's suffering from. He'll love it! Whenever I ask how he is, he tells me he's as "curmudgeonly as ever." :lol:
"Isn't it enough to see that a garden is beautiful without having to believe that there are fairies at the bottom of it too?" - Douglas Adams

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tomf
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Sorry for your loss, it has been one hell of a year for me too.

Susan W
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Sorry for your losses. Take time, stay busy with garden, and life has an amazing way to heal, or move on. You will miss granny so bad when time to snap beans and shuck corn! Good memories.
Have fun!
Susan

Charlie MV
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I am deeply grateful for the kind thoughts and wishes. Thank you all.

tedln
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Sorry Charlie, I don't read all the posts for awhile and then I try to catch up on a weekend or something. I am sorry for your losses. Fortunately or unfortunately my wife and I are the oldest folks in our family. If we have any loses in the near future, I hope it's me or her. I just don't know if I could handle the loss of a kid or grandkid. Me or the wife, just seems like part of nature and right somehow.

Ted
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wingdesigner
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Missed you, too, CharlieMV. My condolences on your losses.

Don't know if I should try "geezerfication" out on the spousal unit. Better go get my helmet first...

Feel free to vent here any time--it's helped me in the past, and I'd be happy to pay it forward.

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Happy Gardening,
Wing



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