Wow! I had an admin message which I nearly dumped as I thought it was some sort of spam so thanks guys for finding this and for your replies. So a little update on my lovely tree...
In 2012 when I posted the original message, I had reluctantly thinned a bit already but not to the 6inch rule, I watered, mulched and read what I could about cultivation ready for 2013. 'Peaches' were still puny.
2013, good blossom, removed every sign of leaf curl and binned it, thinned developing 'fruits' strictly to 6-9 inches, watered, spoke nicely to the tree and begged it to at least give me one peach or let me somehow know what it needed. The season progressed and the 'fruits' continued to develop, got to about August and they started to split and shrivel and drop off the tree
I binned all the fallen ones in case of harbouring leaf curl but a friend had mentioned the benefits of peach kernel for micro b vitamins and that maybe I could at least have the benefit of that for all my efforts, so as I cleared the last of them I got a hammer to break the stone and wow tasted like really strong marzipan!
My poor tree, all this time I've been binning the fruits as it was sold to me as a peach tree, when in fact it is a beautiful almond tree! I ate the rest of the fruits to no ill effect, I still cannot decide despite lots of reading, whether it is a sweet or bitter type so I just limited the amount consumed to avoid risk of poisoning.
So this year I've left all the fruits on the tree, and it is self thinning much like my hazelnut. I've had to gently tie a couple of the branches as they are not used to the weight of carrying all the fruits and but I am expecting a bumper crop!
I took photos of the blossom to try to determine whether its a sweet or bitter variety but been so busy I've not had a chance to follow that up. I also have a friend whose family grew almond trees so I'm hoping when they are ready that she will do some tasting for me.
I spent a good long while cursing the nursery that put the wrong label on the tree, and berating myself for throwing away all those lovely fruits for all those years! Also bought a peach in the spring, its only a whip so will take may years yet to get to the thinning stages but I will know what to do when it does, one day I will get a peach